I admit I am a sucker for the Buddhist philosophy that we are all interconnected. It collides with my susceptibility to chaos physics, through which we learn that if a butterfly flaps his wings on one end of the world, it can affect the tides thousands of miles away. In other words, both the physical world and the spiritual world tell us we are interconnected, whether we like it or not. Even in chaos, there is patterning. So it is ridiculous to pick an echo chamber and live in it as though we were right and the others are wrong.

I was reminded of this when I decided to read my friend, Denise Hamilton’s book, Indivisible.

Denise is a DEI expert and no matter how you feel about DEI you shouldn’t hold this against her. What she is saying is not what you have heard before. In fact I was angry that the book began to climb up the bestseller list in the DEI category, and then in the business category, because I wanted it to be in the self-help category or the personal development category where I think it belongs and can help the most people.

Here’s why. The principles Denise espouses can help you understand your spouse, or a disabled person, or your child. They have little to do with racism, classism, or all those other bullshit isms.

Denise has experience in a wide variety of fields that aren’t known for their surplus of black women. in fact. She has worked in that last bastion of white maleness, commercial real estate. IYKYK. She picked up a whole lot of experience before beginning her book, including the ability to see herself in someone else’s shoes, the…